(I have been wanting to do a series of posts about friendship, and specifically about being a friend of God. This is the fourth post of the series. The first post is here. The second post is here. The third post is here. )
Best friend. BFF. Bromance. Best bud. Sisterhood. Best mate. Bosom buddy. Confidant. Pal. Soul mate. Soul sister. Wing man. Girlfriend. Sidekick. Blood brother/sister. Bestie. We have many terms for a “best friend”. Perhaps it is an indication of how special that relationship can be.
In the pyramid of friend relationships, best friends are the top. We tell them things we do not share with anyone else. We share stories, events, hopes that we probably do not discuss with other people. Being a best friend can be one of the most rewarding relationships of our lives.
For some people, their spouse is their best friend. For others, it is someone they have known since childhood. Some meet much later in life. And often we have different best friends at different stages of our lives. There are folks that do not have, or never had, a best friend. And there are some who do not want a best friend. They often prefer to be left alone, invulnerable, undiscovered, unknown. A best friend wouldn’t leave them alone.
Best friends feel entitled to be – as the kids used to say – all up in your business. As they should. Because this relationship is a sacred ground. We allow, and even invite, our best friends to walk with us through the secret places of our hearts. In the best of best friend relationships, it is a mutual invitation: we agree to journey with them into their secret places too. It feels like we must not miss this opportunity; this is a calling of one heart to another.
The introduction of a future best friend occurs so infrequently, and so suddenly, that we often see it in hindsight. At that first moment, something inside us may be moved… like a tumbler in a lock falling into place. Something has arrived, and we didn’t even know it was missing. It is the first footstep of an epic journey. Am I exaggerating?
Consider the books Tom Sawyer, The Divine Secrets of the Ya-Ya Sisterhood, and anything from the Hobbit series; the comic strips Peanuts, Calvin & Hobbes, and Bloom County; the movies E.T., Super8, Fried Green Tomatoes, Thelma & Louise, and Cocoon; or the television shows Golden Girls, Seinfeld, Stranger Things, and (of course) Friends – all reminders that these relationships are a vital part of our greatest adventures.
Best friends know us well, and – despite better judgment, perhaps – they decided to accept the position. And they stand with us, no matter what.